Deep down you still kinda believe that other people are responsible for you.

In a belief system where others are responsible for your feelings, and you are responsible for theirs, you tend to cling to the belief that it’s your job to MAKE others feel a certain way about you. 

Therefore, you subconsciously run all your choices through a filter to evaluate what feelings others may have about it. You then make your choices depending on who you want to control most instead of your values.